Boy’s Don’t Cry….

dulu sih gw ga gitu "ngeh" dengan keberadaan busway, maklum lah..bukan anak-bus, biasa naik taksi motor kemana-mana :). tapi sekitaran seminggu ini. akhirnya gw beberapa kali naik busway karena memang ada keperluan yang klo diitung-itung lebih praktis pake busway.

jadi, kesan pertama kali masuk ke

HALTE BUSWAY,

berisik..!!!..hehehe… kaleng semuah… klo jalan bunyi dung…dung….dung… tapi, bersih…dan… OK lah..

yang jelas, kesan keteraturan terasa sekaliii… semua harus antri, semua harus sabar, semua dorong-dorong.. *loh?* haha.. masih ada ciri indonesianya ternyata… desain bangunan no comment, secara arsitektur…well… seharusnya bisa dibuat lebih keren tuh.. misal : dibuat kayak toko-toko di cihampelas: yang ada tema superman, pake kolor superman yang gede, batman… ada batmannya… sapu lidi… banyak tukang sapunya…

jadi..misal HALTE BLOK M…pake huruf "M" yang gede dipajang… HALTE INDOSIAR…pasang aja tuh logo INDOSIAR……yang jadi pertanyaan, nanti klo HALTE SAWAH BESAR ??? haha.. sawah siapa yang mau dipindahin kesitu?? kebayang kodok, cacing, lumpur, tumplek blek jadi satu di dalam halte… hehehe.. Mending HALTE MANGGA BESAR… bisa pasang buah dada mangga yang gede-gede disitu..

oiyah…satu lagi, yang naik busway…kinclong-kinclong euyy..

JEMBATAN PENYEBRANGAN

nyaman, spooky (yang ini subjektif banget), yang jelas..ga ada pedagang asongan dan pengemis. yakin bangett, soalnya klo diperhatiin ternyata emang ada satpam yang jagain disitu. haaa.. kasian sekali indonesia, untuk bisa tertib belum karena kemauan diri sendiri orang-orangnya.. tapi masih karena ada "aparat" nya…

Doanya sih, semoga ga ada vandalisme geng-geng anak sma yang dengan "iseng"nya coret nama-nama geng-nya…atau nama kampungnya.. *norak tau*…

DI DALAM BIUS BUS

wah, baruuuuu… desainnya sih sepertinya memang untuk orang-orang yang berdiri ya. *OK with me* asalkan memang cepet, dan nyaman, dan…ada sejuntai makhluk manis sebagai pemandangann.. hehehe..

kursinya model manjang kayak angkot, tapi tenang aja, standarnya satu senderan satu orang, klo angkot kan… bisa 4-6 (klo di tangerang), bisa 5-7 (klo di bandung), bisa 11-12 (klo yang naek anak teka)…. sisanya… standar berdiri, dengan handle-handle tangan terjuntai di besi…

ahh…memang NYAMAN….harusnya emang begini yang namanya bis… cepettt…dingin… bersih.. kinclong.. (tetep)… ga rugi lah naek busway.. oiyah..satu lagi, ada penjaganya itu loh yang baik hati…

"Hati-Hati Pak, Masuk jangan Liat bawah..Awas Kesandung".

atau..liat supirnya yang pake jas (gw aja kalah rapi), lengkap dengan sarung tangan and kacamata hitam..serasa disupirin Mib.. denger-denger.. jadi supir busway.. gajinya 2 juta dolar!?!..hehehe.. daptar ahh…

PEsan Moral :

Kalau anda nganggur dan punya kemampuan menyetir, jangan jadi supir taksi, lebih baik supir busway, tapi klo anda tidak biasa pake jas..berlatihlah dengan metromini dulu…

Duh…akhirnya setelah barusan ditanya *lagi* dari seorang teman, knapa sih gw mendesain blog, fs dll.. disini dengan tema "Boy’s Don’t Cry…Cerita Si Penjahat"… akhirnya gw nyerah juga untuk nulis alesannya disini..

jadi inget beberapa komentar :

x    : "Ih…knapa sih di..Boy’s Don’t Cry?"
me : *mesem-mesem mode-on*

y    : "Emang apa artinya di? Lu jadi nyeremin gitu… mana mau
         cewe-cewe liat jadinya??"
me : "serem ya?" (bukannya memang aslinya orangnya juga nyeremin?)
         … lagian, emang gw bikin buat  menarik cewe-cewe?? 
         hehehehe…mending ngeceng di mall….

z    : "Penjahat???? Loe Penjahat apanya di?? Gw aja lebih penjahat
         daripada Loe waktu di kampus… aPAan sih?? norak tau
         ga??….norakk! "
me : "hehehe…"

Ok… jadi, sebenernya gw bikin layout-nya kayak gini…bukan karena gw penggemar berat The Cure

atau karena gw ga pernah nangis.. tapi..simply karena gw suka frase kata-kata itu…"Boy’s Don’t Cry" kedengerannya KEREN kan???? :).

Anehnya, klo gw cerita alasan itu…gak ada yang percaya gitu? *aneh ya?, dibilangin alesan yang sebenernya malah ga ada yang percaya*, makanya sodara-sodara…dengan ini saya menyatakan bahwa alasan KEREN adalah suatu alasan yang masuk akal, tidak mengada-ada..dan tentu saja… jujur.

Lalu, ada seorang temen yang juga bertanya gini :

x  : "Bukannya apa yang kita tampilkan di FS, dll. adalah sebuah cerminan
       yang kita tulis, dimana kita ingin dinilai orang lain seperti apa.."
       (dengan kata lain, klo kita mau keliatan seperti orang baik, ayo
       tampilin  sisi yang baik-baik dari kita, klo mo kliatan cakep…tampilin
       foto-foto yang cakep-cakep"

me : "Bukan berarti klo gw tampilin .."cerita seorang penjahat", maka gw
        pingin jadi penjahat kan?" :)…well.. memang pendapat temen gw
        itu betul sih, gw juga tidak menolaknya… tapi toh, bukan berarti
        alasan-alasan bodoh dan sederhana semacam "keren".."sounds cool"
        tidak bisa digunakan untuk ini kan?

hehehehe…yaa.. mungkin itulah kadang gw dibilang aneh..tapi yaa.. gpp ah..toh gw pikir klo mau menilai seseorang jangan dari cover-nya. jadi…jangan nilai karakter seseorang dari tampilan lay-outnya aja, tapi liat dan baca sungguh-sungguh profile dan testimonial-nya. karena gw yakin dari situ kita bisa nilai orang itu truly… *ga 100% bisa dipercaya sih, tapi minimal prosentasenya lumayan*

agreed ?…jadi… jawabannya adalah… KARENA KEDENGERENNYA KERENNNNNNN…!!!

regards,
-penjahat-

Boys Don’t Cry

I would say I’m sorry
If I thought that it would change your mind
But I know that this time
I have said too much
Been too unkind

I try to laugh about it
Cover it all up with lies
I try and Laugh about it
Hiding the tears in my eyes

’cause boys… don’t cry
Boys don’t cry….

I would break down at your feet
And beg forgiveness Plead with you
But I know that It’s too late
And now there’s nothing I can do

So I try to laugh about it
Cover it all up with lies
I try to laugh about it
Hiding the tears in my eyes

’cause boys… don’t cry
boys dont cry…

I would tell you That I loved you
If I thought that you would stay
But I know that it’s no use
That you’ve already…Gone away

Misjudged your limits
Pushed you too far
Took you for granted
I thought that you needed me more

Now I would do most anything
To get you back by my side
But I just Keep on laughing
Hiding the tears in my eyes

’cause boys …don’t cry !
Boys don’t cry…
Boys don’t cry…

By David DeAngelo

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

The C&F doesn’t come naturally to me at present so I’ve taken your
advice and am using the internet as a ‘woman simulator’ in order to
practice. I’ve had mixed results so far, I think a few took the teasing
the wrong way as some of them would suddenly stop replying.

I must be better at the C&F than I thought though.

The first time I went on this site I was chatting to a few girls and
one of them ended up giving me her mobile and asking if we could go for
coffee before I had chance to.

Anyway my question: You suggest that a date should simply be ‘tea &
stimulating conversation’, which for all of the reasons you give makes
perfect sense to me. But once I’ve done the tea & conversation with
this girl, do you have any suggestions for other dates where I can come
across as the ‘lover’ instead of the ‘provider’.

The only one where I wouldn’t end up having to shell out (buy her
stuff) that I can think of is a walk along the river or something, but
that’s rather dependent on the weather.

Thanks for changing my life.

- AIB, London, UK

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, well you’re welcome for the “changing your life” thing. Glad to help.

Now, you’re kind of mixing up a couple of concepts that I never intended to “depend” on one another…

If you want to know where to take a woman for
dates, that shouldn’t be confused with whether or not you come across
as a “lover” personality, and not a “provider” personality to her.

Let me ask you something… what is a “date”?

What do you think that the purpose of a “date” is?

Now, I call my material “Double Your Dating”, but what I DON’T mean is “take women out to dinner twice as much as you used to”.

The word “Dating” is simply a word that all of us guys understand to mean as “romantic interactions with women”.

So I use it.

But if you want to have more romantic interactions
with women, that does NOT mean that you need to “take women out on
dates” in order to do it.

Are you with me?

I mean, what do couples do a year after they get together…?

They stay home most of the time, do normal things like go shopping, and generally behave like they did before they met.

This whole “going out to dinner” ritual is really an amazing concept.

It’s awesome how powerful it is… and how guys
really believe that they need to do it (or similar things) in order to
get a woman’s attention in a romantic way.

Here’s the bottom line:

If you want a woman to think of you as a “lover”, then BE ONE.

If you want her to think of you as a provider, then just BE ONE.

What you haven’t quite realized fully yet is that
when you know how to trigger ATTRACTION in a woman, all the “normal”
rules go away.

If a woman feels that powerful emotional
ATTRACTION for you, then she’ll do ANYTHING with you… just to be in
your presence and have your attention.

If you have dialed up the ATTRACTION, then all you need to say is “come over here”.

No dates required.

Now, if you buy her dinner 10 times, call her 3
times a day, and chase her around, then it will be EXPECTED that you
continue this pattern… and provide for her.

NOTE: If you’re buying a woman dinner twice a
week, giving her flowers, calling her every day, and basically
“chasing” her, then you can be about 80% sure that there’s another guy
in the picture… but guess what? He’s the one who SHE calls, and he’s
the one who says “Come over later, I’m busy now”… no dates required.

If you want to be a LOVER to a woman, then DO IT.

You don’t need to wait until the third time out for coffee or tea.

You’ll learn that ATTRACTION doesn’t have a timeline.

It happens VERY QUICKLY, if you know how to trigger it… and you don’t need a lot of “date ideas” once you do.

And now that I’ve avoided your question for a page or two, let me answer with this:

I often take women to do “regular” things with me.
I’ll take them to the grocery store to shop with me, out to the mall to
pick things up, and down to the bookstore to buy a book.

First, start BEING the LOVER immediately.

Then, notice how women DON’T CARE what you do together, as long as she’s with you.

***SUCCESS STORY***

David, Just wanted to say that after reading your material, I
experienced a mental shift. I now see situations in terms of: was I
self-referenced (C & F Man) or externally referenced (wussie boy)?
It is now very clear that success in anything comes to leaders not
followers and women hate dealing with followers. For example look at
little boys dealing with little girls when they are playing together.
They boss them around, make them play by their rules and those girls
grow up expecting men to lead them. Just watch any John Garfield or Lee
Marvin movie. Leaders get the girl, wussies get to be used and
discarded. I’ve made my choice.

Thanks David

- E from Chi

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Good. Now help me get the word out to the other
3 billion guys on the planet.

You’re right. Women don’t like men who are FOLLOWERS.

Women aren’t ATTRACTED to men who are FOLLOWERS.

But guess what? Most men FOLLOW anyway.

Thanks for reminding us that we need to LEAD.

Leading creates ATTRACTION. Following creates the curious dry feeling.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave–

I definitely have to give it to you. You are "da shizznitt", lol. Your
teaching has really changed my entire life.I now feel like I am in
control of "My World". I was a little hesitant about buying your
product… but I just said "What the Hell…What can I lose???" I am
military and in my spare time I am a bartender. You know what that
means… I see females out the izzass, lol.

I was working one night and a female came up to one of my fellow
bartenders to order something and while getting her drink… she asked
told him…"
all these guys are staring at me. Do you think i’m cute?" Now normally
if I were in his shoes and hadn’t learned what you taught me… I would
have melted and told her that she was the finest thing to step foot on
this base… case in point…that was what he said. He just bent down
unzipped his pants and practically handed her his nuts. Hence, her
hands being the nutcracker. I interrupted them while he was "dazed and
confused" and told her "Actually they’re looking at that big pimple on
your forehead. She stopped and turned towards me and laughed and hit me
on the arm. Then I told her not to get mad cuz I was cuter than she.
She smiled and for some odd reason… she could not keep herself away
from the bar. I just pretended that she was one of my friends that I
tease all the time and just called her on everything that she did.
Man… I couldn’t believe that she was really eating this up!!! The
other bartender that she was talking to first, couldn’t believe that I
was doing this!!! He….for some odd reason didn’t GET what was going
on… It was like jets flying over his head. And to show that his nuts
belonged to her… he just kept trying to compliment her.
She just glanced at him smiled and quickly turned her head to pay him
no mind. I got her e-mail and number and she has been like putty in my
hands for the past three months. I have to give it to you, Dave. You da
man!!! I’m not a selfish person…so I gave him your e-mail address and
hopefully he’ll get your system and realize what he’s been doing wrong.
I should give him her e-mail address so that he can ask for his balls
back, lol. But…
for those who have doubts about Dave’s system…

I’m living proof of success.

Thanks Dave!!! JR - Mexico

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, first of all, I think that you must have some kind of bizarre NUT OBSESSION, dude.

And it’s not right.

But hey, fortunately you’re on the right side of
the “don’t hand them over” equation, so everything seems like it might
be all right for you.

You’ve given some great examples of how to get an
attractive woman’s attention, tease her, and play with her to “spark”
that initial sexual tension and “chemistry”.

Now make sure you keep it up so you’re not writing
me in 3 more months with the “She used the Trojan Horse De-Nutting
Technique” on me.

akhirnya…. setelah dua minggu ini memaksakan diri kerja maraton. i’m falling….

aduh…hari ini ngga banget deh, idung meler, tenggorokan kering, gatel, suara serak, sumbang , paraahh..

dan admin-admin cuma pada komentar… "makanya pak adi, cepet cari istri..biar ada yang ngerawat" *wekkk..bukannya pada bantuin*

By David DeAngelo

    
      Let me start off by telling you something interesting:

      
      I’ve personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I’ve found that EMAIL addresses are far better (I still get the phone number too, of ourse).

      
      Let me explain.

      
      I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.

      
      If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute or two (if I’m in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESNT’T EQUAL SUCCESS.

      
      You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal experience, women act different on the phone than they do in person.

      
      When you call a woman for the first time, she’ll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It’s almost like she’s a different person than the one you met.

      
      I’ve found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It’s almost as if women appreciate it that you’ve taken the time to think about what you’re going to say when you write an email to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.

      
      The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered anytime.

      
      If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be answered anytime. And I’ve found that emails are answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.

      
      HERE’S THE HOW TO:

      
      After I’ve talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I’ll often say something like “Well, it was nice meeting you. I’m going to get back to my friends.”

      
      They usually don’t know what to do, as they’re used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say “It was nice meeting you too…” Then, just as I’m turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say “HEY! Do you have email?”

      
      The “HEY!” is a bit surprising, and “Do you have email” is non-threatening. In fact, I’m technically asking her if she HAS email, not if she’ll GIVE IT TO ME.

      
      If she says “yes,” I take out a pen and paper and say “Great, write it down for me” and I have her write it
      down. (This is great, as I just treat the ‘yes’ that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they’ve almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE’S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say “Write your number down there too.”

      
      When you ask for email, it’s very low risk for a woman, so she’ll think “Fine, I’ll do that.” Most women will give out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just not answer.

      
      The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE they’re in the middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human behavior.

      
      She’s already mentally said “OK, I’ll give you my email address”… and she’s in the middle of writing it down. When you say “And just write your number down there too” it’s only NATURAL to just write it.

      
      In other words, it’s a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.

      
      Here’s a great add-on to make sure you’re getting a real phone number and not a pager or voicemail:

      
      As she’s writing down her phone number I say “Is this a number that you actually answer?” If she looks at me and hesitates, or says that it’s her “voicemail or pager number,” then I say “Look, write your real number down. It’s going to be OK, I’ll only call you nine times a day…” They laugh and usually give me their real number.

      
      Now, if she answers my first question and says “No, I don’t have email” then I bust on them and say “Well, do you have electricity?” This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.

      
      Then I say “Well, OK then. I like email better, but I’ll take your regular phone number. It’s so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days.”

      
      Just realize that all you have to do is ask.

      
      Like I said, I’ve tried all kinds of things. And I’ve gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. I’ve gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or two - no kidding!

      
      Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response.

      
      Many guys have asked me “But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?” I’ve never had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesn’t give it to you, then she also knew why you asked.

      
      Just assume that this is the case.

      
      If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you’ll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.

      
      Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it’s  small, classy, and women love it!

Lord give me the strength
To make it through another day.
To make the right decisions,
And see the light to guide my way.

amin ya rabbal alamiin….

tetep aja sakit…

baru aja tau, baru aja liat, dan ternyata walaupun bagaimana juga…

tetep sakit…..

*nulis ini sambil dengerin lagu muse-untented*